Weekly Quote: Look Pretty and Desirable AT ALL TIMES

Kate Beckinsale on home life:

"I don't like to walk around wearing no make-up with my hair rolled on top of my head on my days off. I think my husband would be a bit bummed out if I did. It's nice to feel like you're wooing the other person a bit, as once it degenerates into wearing yesterday's sweatpants and farting on the sofa, you lose a bit of the spice. You've got to keep up the seduction phase - it's fun."

Source.

I find myself reacting to this in three ways:

- OK, each to their own. No judgement passing here!
- Interesting! Prioritizing being kinky is kind neat!

But mostly:

- Fuck off! Fuck this perpetual "seduction phase"! Fuck having to be clean, cute and fuckable at all times!

Pictured above: Kate NOT FARTING on a couch.
Useful link: Feminism

Weekly Video - Happy Halloween!

From your new friend Nirodh, who educates in a queer-friendly-sex-positive-jaunty manner while providing costume inspiration!



"I am good natured and provide satisfaction" is my new motto.

Weekly Quote: Cuz I owe you another one

"Lamothe succinctly sums up the goal of the party: "basically we wanted to put the sex back in homosexuality!""

Read more about Montreal's new sex party for women and trans folk here.

Weekly Quote: Metal Women

The current issue of Bitch Magazine is "The Loud Issue" and they have a lovely article by one Jenny Rose Ryan entitled "Horning In: The Case for Feminist Metal". Here is an interesting quote about one of my own heroines:

"With all the pressure to be strong, masculine and brutal, female metal musicians sometimes demonize feminism in the way other women who've bought into the binary do, too. Patti Smith, fans will recall, let fly in her early days with some real doozies about rock being the province of dudes ("Real rock and roll is a man's job. I want to see a man up there. I want to see a man's muscles, a man's veins. I don't want to see no chick's tit banging against a bass."). We may want women in Gossow's position to speak up for feminism, just as we want other strong, accomplished, confident women in music, politics, pop culture, and beyond to do. But, as with Smith, it doesn't necessarily stop women (or men) from admiring, respecting, and emulating her if she doesn't."

Weekly Quote: Life is a Highway

Found this through GOOGLE, from someone's blog called Many Highways, regarding their trip to Montreal:

"Beyond a doubt, the most surprising experience of the trip occurred at La Sala Rossa, a Spanish social club on St. Laurent Boulevard. The club serves as a venue for rock concerts by night and Matt and I had checked their schedule in advance and listened to sound clips of several bands playing on Friday night. The bands were playing at the launch party of a local self-described "smut 'zine" called Lickety Split (this link is Not Safe For Work). We thought we were in for a concert but it ended up being much more. The show included some provocative dancing by a local dance group called the Dead Doll Dancers (another NSFW link) and the bathrooms were "gender neutral" meaning it was common to see members of both genders in the same bathroom. We had no idea that it was that type of concert but it ended up being pretty harmless. Oh, and the bands (The Hot Springs, On Bodies, Call me Poupee and Hollerado) were quite good."

I like almost offending people. Hope they come back to town for our next launch on November 21st!

Weekly Quote: Domesticity = Death!

K$ came across this quote by Julia Ward Howe, early suffragist and creator of Mother's Day. That's... um, interesting to say the least. Speaking about marriage and motherhood, she said:

"God only knows what I have suffered from this stupor -- it has been like blindness, like death, like exile from all things beautiful and good."

Wowza.

Weekly Quote: Marianne Faithfull

“Ever since my days at the convent my secret heroes had been decadents, aesthetes, doomed Romantics, mad bohemians, and opium eaters… I was very fascinated by all this stuff. Forbidden books, forbidden pleasures… I had always fantasized about delicious depravities. Like a heroine in a gothic novel, I wanted to be seized by terrible and voluptuous emotions. I wanted to know why it was forbidden.” - Marianne Faithfull

More quotes about Marianne Faithfull found on the blog The Desertshore....

STEPHEN DAVIS: “Marianne thought Mick was narcissistic, manipulative, and as tight as two coats of paint. She radiated a blue-eyed innocence that belied her fierce intelligence and passionate appetites. Bob Dylan was said to be in love with her, like so may men drawn to her charismatic orbit, but his amorous advances had been rebuffed.”

Weekly Quote: A Look at Marriage

The following quote is from an essay penned by Karen Eng entitled "A Bride's Anxiety" from the book Young Wives' Tales: New Adventures in Love and Partnership, edited by Jill Corral and Lisa Miya-Jervis, with a forward by bell hooks:

"The oddest of all pessimistic or thoughtless attitudes volleyed at me in the course of being engaged is this: Marriage is so scary because it's so permanent. At this I snort, and inwardly I wish it were true. In fact, I'm certain only that nothing goes on forever, that my desire for Iain takes the form of wanting to be with him from moment to moment into a future I can't see. Marriage is only as permanent as I am, and what am I? A resilient bag of blood. Life is fragile and brief- from where I stand it's nowhere near a long enough time with the person I want closest by me."  

Weekly Quote: Remembering Riot Girl

I cannot get enough of this book Rock She Wrote. This week's food-for-thought quote (three weeks late!) is a simple one pulled from an amazing essay entitled "Revolution Girl Style Now" by Emily White, published in LA. Weekly on July 10th 1992, and many times and in many places after that. Riot girl was an amazing feminist musical and cultural movement that came from the underground/post-punk/grunge scene in the early to mid-90s, created by a loose network of women, though many groups continue to exist today. It was predominantly white and many of the women were from upper-to middle class backgrounds and much of the rhetoric focused on confessional politics, the personal-is-political in punk rock and body and sexuality based politics. Or something like that. Maybe just read the essay in its entirety. Here's a snippet:

"The girl revolutionaries, many of whom are too old and world-wise to reasonably be called "girls", take this name because they have glimpsed that loud, untamed figure, because their utopia lies in the past. The Bikini Kill girls often talk nostalgically about some first, organic "girl culture" which is destroyed upon contact with the world of boys. Then jealousy interferes; they often chant, "Struggle against the J-word, killer of girl love". If that seems rather innocuous, more interesting is their sense that this "organic" girl community allowed an unregulated sexuality- homosexuality wasn't looked down upon, says Hanna. "Girls' first erotic experiences are usually with each other , but we're taught to forget that. ""

For more on Riot Girl check out this page on wikipedia.
Archive of weekly quotes can be found here.

Weekly Quote: Pink Elephants & Arousal as Truth

" What I perceived was the Pink Elephant of the pornography discussion: what turns you on might not match your artistic values, your romantic choices in real life, your political views, but it is just as much a part of you, just as real and substantial, as any other aspect. It's not a defect or a weakness, it's your intuitive ability to take all that's unbearable and crazy and unspeakable about life and turn it into juice- eroticism. Don't you dare go around with your nose in the air pretending that anybody's fantasies are low-class or despicable, because without that juice you wouldn't be alive, wouldn't be able to discriminate; you'd be a stranger both to your capacities and your limits."

- Susie Bright, from her 1997 book The Sexual State of the Union, from the chapter entitled Aroused

Weekly Quote: rock, sex and ladies

So, in the same attitude as K$'s Weekly Videos , we're gonna start up a weekly quotes section. You know, stuff you don't want to keep to yourself (as opposed to the stuff you want to keep private- see my post from last week). The excerpts are food for thought and not meant to express the opinion of Lickety Split. That said, as a member of the lady-fronted rock band Nightwood, I am interested in the following on a personal level:

"I remember seeing the Clash when I was eighteen and coming out of the show bouyant and huge, wanting to jump and lunge and keen at the moon and fuck until the sun came up. Feeling rich and strong and full of myself. A joy of loud driving chaotic music is part of me, part of my sexuality, and no one can theorize that away."

- Terri Sutton, "Women, Sex and Rock 'n' Roll", Puncture, summer 1989 + found in the book Rock She Wrote